Who Does What How My Partner And I Approach Chores When We Both Work Long Hours

Who Does What How My Partner And I Approach Chores When We Both Work Long Hours For most of human history, the way we talk about household labor teilens has rotated largely around heteronormative gender roles. Thankfully, the idea that gender should determine the who does what of housework is (mostly) no longer the world we live in. But theres still no rule book for helping freunds figure out how to divvy up household chores the physical, mental, and emotional ones in a way thats fair and equitable.So, what does the division of household chores for modern couples look like, really? In FGBs Who Does What series, we asked readers to complete an exercise in buchen to share with us the amount and nature of housework they actually do, and how they and their partner decided to divvy it all up.--NameChristopher Bok LocationNew York CityRelationship statusIn a relationshipWhat type of home (e.g, condo, house) do you have?ApartmentDo you have any kids or pets?Yes, a dog (French Bulldog nam ed Baxter)--How long have you and your partner been together?18 Months.How long have you been living together?6 Months.What chores do you do daily, and how did you and your partner decide youd be the one to do them? Please describe.The chores I do daily (really depends on the day and how tired I am) 1) cleaning up the apartment, 2) laundry, 3) cleaning after the dog, 4) dishes, 5) cooking, 6) getting the mail. We didnt really decide but if I didnt do these chores, I suspect they wouldnt get done (sorry if my S/O is reading this). I think we are both pretty good at identifying something that needs to be done and doing it, although Id argue I execute far mora often.What chores do you do weekly and/or monthly, and how did you and your partner decide youd be the one to do them? Please describe.Weekly chores include 1) cleaning the bathroom, 2) flower delivery, 3) grocery shopping, 4) other chores as needed. Again, we didnt really decide but if I see a need to do something, I usually do it (as does she).How about your partner? What chores do they do daily, and how did they and/or you decide theyd do them?My girlfriend supplements a lot of the chores that I do and vice versa. On a typical day, she will 1) clean up after the dog, 2) make koranvers the apartment is stocked with everything that we need and order whatever is missing, 3) perform some basic tidying up, 4) order/make dinner.What chores does your partner do weekly and/or monthly, and how did they and/or you decide theyd do them?Monthly chores include 1) laundry (as needed), 2) a more detailed cleaning of our apartment, 3) other chores as needed.Is the way you and your partner divide tasks similar to the household you grew up in? Why or why not?No. When I was growing up, my mother took care of the inside chores while my father took care of the outside chores.Whats something you and your partner could improve on when divvying up and completing household tasks? Whats something you feel youre doing well?We coul d probably be more communicative on what we both should be doing daily, weekly and monthly. At times, we neglect basic chores (i.e. cleaning after work, dishes) that end up aggregating into more of a mess than it should be.Lightning Round1. Who makes the bed?Usually N/A2. When you go out to eat, who picks the restaurant and/or makes the reservation? Depends, but usually my girlfriend.3. Who makes doctors appointments? Dentist appointments?We make our own appointments.4. Who picks up the dry cleaning? I do.5. Who keeps track of friends and family members birthdays?We keep track of the birthdays of our own respective friends and families. In the case of joint-friends, probably me.6. Who pays bills? (Or if you divvy this up, who pays which bills?)I pay our bills, my girlfriend pays me back for her share.7. When something in the house/apartment is broken, who makes sure it gets fixed?I do.8. Who makes sure the tags on your cars are up-to-date?We live in New York City, we dont have a car 9. Who vacuums?My girlfriend usually does.10. Who was the last person to dust something?Dust?11. Who was the last person to clean your toilet?Definitely me12. Who buys groceries?Usually I do, but my girlfriend also does on occasion.13. Who brings in the mail?I do 90% of the time.14. Who irons?The anti-wrinkle feature on our dryer solves that dicke bretter bohren mssen (i.e. we dont iron).15. Who was the last person to clean out the fridge/pantry of expired items?Definitely me.16. Youve been invited to a wedding. Who RSVPs? If addressed to both of us, my girlfriend does.17. When planning a trip, who books the flights? The hotels?My girlfriend is the trip planner, but she will tell you we dont go on enough trips. I need to plan a great trip for her (actually she has a ticket to anywhere she wants to go but hasnt cashed that in yet).18. Who planned what you did last Friday night? Our Friday nights are easy to plan. We order in and watch 20/20 we both work a lot during the week and are usually tired. I wish I (we) had the stamina to go out on the town on a Friday. Perhaps one day well get our second pop (or in her case, her first pop).19. Who planned your last date night?I believe our last date night (just the two of us) was my birthday so she did We also recently were on a ersatzdarsteller date which she also planned.20. You need a gift for a friends housewarming party. Who buys it? Definitely my girlfriend.--Interested in participating in FGBs Who Does What series? Email infofairygodboss.com with Who Does What in the subject line.